Top Things to Look Out For, When Choosing a Dating Site

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In the search to find romance and companionship, more people have turned to online dating. Once stigmatized as a venue for the desperate, online dating has become a normal part of the mating and dating game. It is said that 50 per cent of these new couples met online, with about half of those meeting through an online dating site. And surprisingly many of the people online come from the fifty-year-old plus age group.

  1. It is a reputable dating site
  2. The people on the site are in your age group
  3. The people on the site have similar interests and values to your own.
  4. Free introductory membership
  5. Online member assistance
  6. Anti-spam and scam policies
  7. Large database of members
  8. The site has a high level of security
  9. Will work well on mobile and tablet

Can these dating sites really help me with romance and what should I look out for?

I could online dating site will give you access to more people and many types of people. There is an obvious benefit that a quality dating website will provide easy access to potentially thousands of dates.

This can be especially helpful for if you don’t have a large social circle. Also to this great number of people, you are able to view will provide you with an avenue for meeting more like-minded people. There are dating sites that cover a whole range of interest and some devoted to older people whilst others are related more to the young.

A dating site removes a lot of the ambiguity that you might face when you meet an interesting person at a work event or a party. You know with a dating site where people stand,  you can be fairly certain that everyone you meet is single and looking for a relationship.

Because of the relative anonymity that online dating offers, you can take more risk when reaching out to people who we might be too shy to approach in person. And even though men generally contact women more than vice versa when on the site, surprisingly a sizable minority of women do reach out to men they find desirable on a site, switching the normal situation we find offline.

Too many options can be a problem.  How on are you going to make up your mind? Well, most of the sites have a filter you can use to narrow down the field. Firstly, you can select the age bracket let’s say 50 to 60. Then we might add in our interests that say like going to the cinema or reading for example. Now we need to find those who live in a sensible distance away from where I live.


Some sites have the mechanism to narrow things down even further, like hair colour, height, and weight for example. I would recommend not being too fussy here, as we might miss out on that special person, who could have turned out to be the love of our life just around the corner. And we have missed them because they are just outside our parameters.

Now we have set this up we can start looking at the physical attributes and whether we are physically attracted to them by looking at their pictures displayed on their profile.  Plus, by reading their profiles we get a good indication of what they’re like and of their hobbies and their interests.

Now you could do all that by meeting people at a social event – couldn’t we?

Even with online dating, it’s important not to be too rigid in our attitude in the sort of person we’re we think looking for. After all, often opposites really do attract. With so much choice we don’t want to get bogged down looking and looking for that perfect person. We will only really know if a person is our type when we communicate with them and eventually meet them.

It is difficult to know if you’re really compatible with someone based solely on what you have shared on a dating site.

An important thing to note is that we are going to have to create a profile about ourselves and those people we may be interested in, will be making up their mind as to whether they are interested in us. Good honest profile with a good recent photo is oh so important. We have put together what we believe is a good guide on creating a profile.

In real life, after we get to know someone and like their personality, we begin to find them more and more appealing as. Making a quick decision based on an online photo or a written profile doesn’t give us the time to allow for this slower development of physical attraction and may cause us to dismiss potential mates to whom we could become attracted – so take your time.

The problem is once we find someone particularly attractive, we think everybody else does too, so we start to rush things and strangely, this usually makes you less attractive to them, as it makes you look a bit desperate. So, take your time, be cool and let things happen slowly.

When you meet someone online on a dating site, and you are both ready look for an immediate romantic connection. But, sometimes for no reason, you can’t fathom there is no spark and there no dating site filter to adjust for this. Our best advice here to just politely move on.

Paul-Swin

Paul-Swin; Worked in marketing for many years, mostly in the electrical retail sector, before setting up and running Anything Direct a successful e-retail business. Currently operating the Cafe Dating collection of quality dating sites. Now setting up Older-U.com, a blog and Youtube Channel which covers many topics for the over fifties.

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